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Caregivers and Their Aging Parent Plan Ahead

Were we smart or lucky?  Looking back, I’m just not sure.  Either way a little bit of preplanning made a big difference when Dad took a fall one night in his pleasant Florida patio home where he lived alone after our stepmother Elizabeth died.

We were smart when we hired a geriatric care manager, the amazing Elinor Gorgas of Central Florida Medical Legal Consulting, to look in on Dad every month or so.  She advised us on his present needs and future needs that might arise.  So, just in case, we toured a few of the local assisted living communities in the area on one of our visits.

Dad wasn’t ready to move then, and we did not belabor the point with him that staying in his home might not be forever.  The day …

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Social Networking For Caregivers and Elders

Caregiving has many burdens.  We often are caring for an elder with whom we have a past.  There is a connection, but there was a family dynamic in the past that damaged the relationship.  There may be money or housing problems.  Caregiving by definition means there are health problems.

For caregivers one of the biggest issues can be loneliness and isolation.  The elder’s condition may mean almost constant attendance with almost no respite for the caregiver.  There are agencies who may help, but the demands on the caregiver’s time are enormous.  There is help, but the demands never go away

Carol’s father Frank was in Florida for many years and we were long distance caregivers.  That meant visiting as often as we could and aiding him in managing his affairs with the help of a geriatric …

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Geriatric Care Managers

Most people become caregivers of aging parents with no experience in dealing with the aged and infirm.  Visiting the comments on any caregiving website will have stories that stay with you for days.  There are stories about bad care facilities, people whose marriages have failed because the spouse could not deal with the demands of caregiving, bad medical advice, and so on.

A special problem is when the children of elderly parents live a long distance from the one needing care.  When the elder can no longer live independently without help, what to do?

Fortunately there are Geriatric Care Managers who can help.  Several years ago Frank was living independently in his home in Florida.  We visited about twice a year from our home in Denver.  You can see pictures taken during several of …

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A Turning Point in Caregiver Healing

Part Two of Three

When my father moved to Denver from Florida, it was like I moved too.  I had been a long distance caregiver, and now I moved into a different role.  I became a day to day, hands-on caregiver.

Before, we had relied on the expertise of a geriatric care manager to advise Dad and us about care and medical decisions and to be there in an emergency when we could not be.  Now, those decisions and duties were up to us.  There was a very steep learning curve to be mastered in this regard, but I found the more difficult parts to be the emotional aspects.

I had not had the benefit of experiencing the changes in my father slowly and incrementally as they had occurred.  Suddenly I was confronted with …

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