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Inside the Assisted Living Experience

Dad chose assisted living after a serious fall at home left him on the floor overnight.  He had just come through a difficult rainy season when he weathered three hurricanes in two months time.  The downside of living alone had never been more apparent to him.

First thing that morning he told his home health aide he was ready to move and by evening she and her husband had him ensconced in his new studio apartment up the hill at Laurel Springs.  Bill and I arrived the next day to help him get settled in.  Although I know he wavered about his decision more than once, I was proud and relieved that he chose his own safety and made the decision for himself.

Dad lived at Laurel Springs for a few years …

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It Takes a Village–The Geriatric Care Manager

The Family Caregiver’s Best Friend

I learned about geriatric care managers back in 1999 when my stepmother, Elizabeth, was very ill.   I no longer remember exactly how I first connected with our friend, Elinor Gorgas of Central Florida Medical-Legal Consultants, but we were truly blessed to find her.  Sadly, she could not help my dad then with Elizabeth’s post hospital care as we originally thought she would.  Our much loved Elizabeth never returned home from that last hospital stay.

For the first few years after Elizabeth’s death, Dad was still vigorous and active, spending time with friends and continuing with his library volunteer work and caring for his roses.  Then something changed, and Dad started looking a bit more frail and sounding a little forgetful.  It was at this point that we contacted Elinor …

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Inside Hands-On Aging Parent Care

Reviewing Mama Moves In by Thomas A. Dyke

Just before my father’s death last summer Tom Dyke contacted me to offer us a copy of his book Mama Moves In for possible review.  I felt pretty overwhelmed at that time, and, not being an in-home caregiver, I wondered if I would be able to relate to his situation.  But I said “yes” anyway, and I’m glad I did.

Mama Moves In is both Tom’s personal story as caregiver for his elderly mother and a caregiver’s handbook filled with practical wisdom for all family caregivers—in-home or not.  Tom describes his journey–from the original decision to create a living space for his family that could include his aging mother to the challenges presented by his need to learn from the ground up just what it means …

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What to Give a Caregiver for Christmas

The Daughter Trap by Laurel Kennedy

The Daughter Trap is a comprehensive look at issues of importance to every caregiver, covering subjects ranging from caregiver statistics to the psychological and emotional issues caregivers face and to up-to-date reviews of electronic devices to help elders age in place.  While The Daughter Trap focuses on the reality that two thirds of family caregivers are women, with an even larger percentage of that number providing for the most laborious hands-on care, author Laurel Kennedy also devotes a full chapter to the experience of male caregivers.

One of the unique aspects of this fact laden work is that it is also generously larded with the individual reports of over 200 caregivers, presented in their own words.  Quotes taken from personal interviews and internet chat rooms provide deep insight …

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How to Care for Caregivers in National Family Caregiver Month

The theme of this year’s national celebration of family caregivers is “Reach Out for Help.”  Last week I shared Bill’s reflections on what could have made caregiving easier for him while Dad was still alive.  This week Judi shares how a small piece of information would have been a huge help to her in caring for Mom.

Judi’s Story

The thing that was the most challenging for me when I was my mother’s caregiver was arranging transportation for her.  She was in a wheelchair, and she was totally incapable of helping with transferring herself to and from her chair.  I drove a Jeep at the time which was quite high off the ground.  It was a big struggle to get her in and out of such a tall vehicle.  Willie’s truck of course was …

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